Roissy, among many others, describes an alpha-beta split in human men. His examples and evidence is compelling, especially for anyone who leans towards evolutionary psychology.

Well, here is even more proof:

I know I’ve been writing a lot about reproductive rights and sexual health issues, but the stories I want to comment on seem to be increasing lately. As someone who writes a lot about these issues, I’ve noticed something interesting over the years about the feedback I get on the “moral” question of abortion, specifically from self-identified pro-choicers.

Wait for it…

95-99% of this feedback is from men.

Wanting to be a father, in my mind, was about wanting to make the decision jointly with a woman and moving forward with a plan. But in real life, there are often situations where decisions are made passively, because of an unintended pregnancy. And I realized how that might actually be something men who want marriage and fatherhood hope for. Why not? In our sexist society, the decision to marry is basically on the man. Women are the ones who are supposed to be eager to get married, but they’re also the ones who are supposed to sit back and wait to be asked. But asking is showing eagerness, but eagerness is supposed to be girly stuff, so I imagine that’s intimidating for a lot of dudes. Ways to manage the slight emasculation inherent in picking out jewelry and showing interest in this wedding stuff include having a huge public proposal where people will side with you and her only role is to say “yes”, asking her father first and making it seem transactional, or getting over your hang-ups about masculinity and just asking. Or….you could get her pregnant and be the conquering hero by making an honest woman of her. As soon as I realized this, I realized what a powerful fantasy that must be to some men. It’s the perfect way to get what you want (marriage, babies) without having to say you want that girly stuff.

It’s simply a reversal. Instead of the lower value woman attempting to trap a man with a baby, the lower value man attempts to use it on his prized trophy woman.

It’s the perfect way to get what you want (marriage, babies) without having to say you want that girly stuff.

I fear that’s the logic, but not the truth. The reason might be the way pop-culture and feminism have twisted the idea of masculinity.

I can’t imagine how this would actually work in today’s post-feminist, women’s liberated (huh?) world. If you get her pregnant, she can do just fine without a hubby. Hell, she can have the child, keep her job, take the guy’s money, and still remain unmarried (and not have to worry about sleeping with whomever she pleases).

Maybe one day I’ll share some of my own personal anecdotes wherein I’ve witnessed things like this, and worse.

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3. I challenge any of you sweethearts out there to prove me wrong.